I remember reading many years ago a book written by Charles Stanley. It was titled, “Cobwebs of the Mind.” There is one thing that really stuck out in my head. It is that all of us have the power within to change our thoughts. We can change our negative thoughts into positive ones. We can essentially, as Charles Stanley commented, re-wire them. This takes time.
Depending upon how long we have been suffering and what we are suffering from, can depend on how long it can take to re-wire our brains to think and believe the opposite.
If you are someone who has suffered sexual abuse from a family member for several years it may take several years to change our thoughts from hate to love. From feeling like we are less valued to someone who has a lot of value. To recognize that we are a valuable human being with many talents (yes, I truly believe all of us have many talents) to give in loving ways rather then feeling like we have nothing to give back to society. Many times with sexual abuse we lose ourselves. We start to think we have nothing and are nothing. That we are worthless and that the only thing we may feel we can offer is sex. I understand. I speak from experience. I once thought that way about myself.
I was a victim of sexual abuse at the pure young age of three. My body memories remembered abuse happening to me from three to five years of age. It wasn’t until at the age of 29 did these memories surface. My youngest child, a girl, (my other two children are boys) who was almost three at the time, is when these memories showed themselves to me. Being the type of person I am, I asked myself the question, “Why? What am I feeling? What is happening to me?” I knew enough to question. I asked myself to provide the answers.With the assistance of therapists, a few of them by the way, helped me help myself to re-wire my brain. It was damn tough but well worth every second. One of the things that I very much enjoyed was my walks outside. I loved the sun, the clouds, birds and all of the animals I saw as I went on my walks.
So…when we work on getting rid of our mind chatter, our brains are ready to receive answers. Looking outside of ourselves, such as nature, helps do this for us. I believe it helps us tap into our self, our soul, the spirit within us. But first we need to be open and willing to accept that there are answers in nature. Many could argue is it the brain, the body, the heart, the spirit that receives these answers given? What I say is that in order for one part of us to open up to our truth, all the other parts of us need to be open to receive. It is all connected. We are all connected. We connect to ourselves micro cosmically and we connect to the universe macro-cosmically.
A shift in energy is always followed by a change in our reality.
In Love and Light,
Author and Healer
Barbara Anne Rose